Preparing Your Daughter For Her First OB/GYN Appointment

An OBGYN doctor working with a young patient

Your daughter’s body changes vastly over the span of a few years, so it’s no surprise that her first OB/GYN appointment can seem a little daunting at first. Puberty can seem embarrassing for a lot of adolescents, so the idea of a doctor or midwife examining and talking about their sexual and vaginal health may be uncomfortable or intimidating. As a mother, you can help ease discomfort and empower your daughter to take charge of her health. By following the steps we’re listed to prepare your daughter for her first OB/GYN appointment, you can help her feel calm and confident.

Schedule at the Right Time 

According to the American College of Gynecology and Obstetrics, girls should have their first OB/GYN appointment in their teen years. Most girls will not need a pelvic exam during this visit though. While this is the general time frame, we know that every woman’s body is different, so we’re happy to help you with any concerns that you or your daughter may have regardless of age. Certain indications of an earlier appointment may include menstrual irregularities, contraception, or questions about sexual activity. We can discuss the right time to initiate routine gynecological care for your daughter, though PAP smear testing typically will not begin until the age of 21.

Discuss Expectations

While pelvic exams aren’t typically administered at the first OB/GYN appointment, they may become necessary if the patient is sexually active, wants STI testing, or is experiencing abnormal bleeding or painful periods. Pelvic exams generally consist of three main parts: an external genital exam, a vaginal exam, and a cervical exam. While your daughter likely will not have the pelvic exam at her appointment, knowing about them early on will prepare her for this exam when the time comes. It is a standard practice to administer a general physical exam to check in on height, weight, and blood pressure at the start of each OB/GYN appointment. In addition to the general physical exam, your daughter may also have a breast exam. This exam can help girls to self-examine their own breasts and to identify any changes. 


If you and your daughter have never discussed family medical history, now is a good time to start that conversation. Genetics play a huge role in a variety of disorders and diseases, so by disclosing your medical history you can help teach your daughter about the importance of prevention and early detection. Discuss any applicable conditions of immediate family members, relatives, and the time frame associated with those conditions. It’s also important for your daughter to be prepared to talk about her menstrual cycle. Her provider will likely ask about the date of her last period, the length of her cycles, and will inquire about any problems. If your daughter knows to think about those questions before the appointment, she can give more accurate answers and avoid feeling overwhelmed when asked these questions on the spot.

Make Her Feel Comfortable

In addition to standard communication about medical history, encourage your daughter to ask questions and empower her to feel good about her body. At this time in her life it’s easy to feel unsure and self conscious, so by building her up and normalizing visits to the OB/GYN office, you can promote an overall feeling of comfortability. Remind her that the doctors and midwives are professionals that are never going to judge the way she looks, and that it’s best to speak up about any concerns to get the best results out of her appointment. Visits to the OB/GYN office are a healthy, normal part of life, so the earlier she knows this and feels comfortable, the more likely she is to take charge of her health for the rest of her life.

Talk To An OB/GYN Provider

The team at Triangle Physicians for Women is here for you in all stages of your life and are committed to providing you with comprehensive care. Whether you’re a new patient or a regular with us we strive to offer the highest quality of care. To make an appointment, call the office at (919) 678-6900 or contact us online.

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My visit was great! & my past visit have all been great.Kristy helped me even with me being a bit stressed & in a hurry because I had to be seen & my job is super strict. Her urgency to get me seen was phenomenal. I even got to see Heather, she’s awesome & amazing. She helped deliver my baby girl a year ago. My whole family loves her and Dr Sheshadri. We actually can’t wait to get pregnant again hahaha. Everyone treats you with respect and always makes sure your okay & answers whatever questions you have before you leave. Even leaving a message for the nurses,they get back to you so quickly.  This practice really makes you feel taken care of.  We appreciate you all!  – Erika Hooks

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TP4W have such amazing doctors, midwives and nurses.  I cannot say enough about Dr. Grana and the rest of the staff for all the help, advice, guidance and medical care they provided me with all of my kids.  She made me feel safe and calm through both c-sections.  My routine care and pregnancy care have always been top notch and I would recommend them to anyone looking for an OBGYN.  – Brooke

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Thank you all so much for taking such good care of me through both of my pregnancies and births, especially my latest one on 10/29! most of yall know how nervous I was from having gone through a lot (to say the least) with my first in 2016. You all made me feel so comfortable and at ease before, during and after. And going through a touch year with my dad, you guys always asked how he was doing at every appointment, which was so thoughtful and beyond your job description. I know that you all see many women go through what i did each and every day and deliver many babies and perform many c-sections. But I hope you know how special Ruby’s delivery was to me. You all have amazing jobs! I cannot thank you all enough. Merry Christmas!

Love, Lucy

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I’ve always had wonderful experiences at TP4W. Everyone is friendly, knowledgeable, and thorough in their care. April delivered my son and I can’t say enough wonderful things about her. She is patient and compassionate. I had the best labor and delivery experience thanks to her. I do and will continue to recommend them to my friends and family!